Spice up Your Bedroom Design Your Bedroom With
Intimacy in Mind
Your bedroom is supposed to be
your sanctuary and haven. It's a
place to get away from it all
and leave everyday stresses
behind. Unfortunately, in real
life, the bedroom is the room
that gets the least attention.
Instead of a romantic sanctuary
away, the bedroom becomes a
dumping ground for clothes, an
office to bring work home to, or
another version of the TV room.
Not sexy, and definitely not
romantic.
When decorating your bedroom,
you want to make sure you create
a sensual atmosphere. After all,
that is where all the magic
happens. Not only is a sensual
bedroom conducive to romance, it
will help keep your mind off
daily routines.
Couples who put a little extra
effort into turning their
bedroom into their personal love
den get even more than a
peaceful getaway. These couples
have found a way to put
togetherness first and increase
their bond with each other
through inspired love play. You
may not always be in the mood
when you walk in the door after
a long day, but one step into
your passionate playground
should go a long way toward
stoking the fires of passion.
1.
Watch Yourself
Adding
mirrors
to your
bedroom
will add
also add
depth.
You
don't
have to
be
blatantly
obvious
and put
it over
the bed,
but a
strategically
placed
mirror
definitely
adds
sexy
sparkle,
and can
really
spice
things
up. It
will add
glimmer
and
shine,
both
sexy
qualities.
Propping
up a
mirror
next to
the bed
can make
you feel
as
sophisticated
as a
contestant
on Charm
School.
Place a
mirror
on the
longest
wall,
and the
whole
room
will
appear
twice
its real
width.
Add a
second
mirror
on the
side
wall for
additional
light.
For a
subtler
visual
thrill,
cluster
big,
sturdy
candles
on the
floor in
front of
a mirror
to
create
shadows.
2. Have the Wardrobe
of a Sex Goddess
Clean
and
organize
your
closet
so you
can keep
your
lingerie
in a
prominent
position.
Having
your
lingerie
visible
when the
closet
doors
are open
creates
two
effects.
One,
it's
easy to
get to
whenever
the mood
strikes
and two,
it
serves
as a
daily
teaser
for your
lover.
We've
already
covered
the fact
that
mirrors
add
glimmer
and
shine,
so you
can also
place a
full
length
mirror
on the
inside
of each
closet
door and
give him
a treat
as he
watches
you
change.
3.
Romantic, Sensual &
Erotic Accents
Fan the
flames
of
passion
with
sensual
photography,
artwork,
sculptures
or
collectibles.
Try
blowing
up
photos
of cozy
moments
or
erotic
images
of you
and your
lover in
action.
You can
even
have
them
professionally
converted
into
prints.
If a
picture
of you
and your
partner
in a
compromising
position
isn't
something
you want
hanging
on your
wall, or
you're
not in a
monogamous
relationship,
then get
erotic
prints
of of
other,
anonymous
couples.
(Read
Erotic:
This
doesn't
means
this
month's
centerfold
taped to
the
wall)
4.
The color of Passion
Color is
the
easiest
and
quickest
way to
set the
mood of
a room.
Red is a
stimulant,
and is
often
identified
as a
color
synonymous
with sex
and
romance,
but red
is also
known
for
bringing
out
aggressive
behaviors
and
thoughts,
and its
psychological
effects
can
include
irritability.
Purple
invokes
an
exotic,
sensual
feeling
while
still
keeping
the air
of
relaxation,
making
it a
favorable
color
choice.
Other
good
choices
include
medium
to dark
shades
of
purple,
blue,
green,
brown,
grey and
orange.
Great
accent
colors
include
red,
black,
pink,
white,
and tan.
5.
Paint the Ceiling
A 2007
study by
the
University
of
Minnesota
found
that
high
ceilings
prompt
more
inventive
thinking,
and low
ceilings
help you
focus on
details.
If your
man's
mind
seems to
wander
rather
than
concentrate
on your
body,
paint
your
ceiling
darker
than
your
walls to
make it
seem
lower
and
increase
the
focus on
the
details...
such as
you. If
your
love
making
routine
has
become
routine,
paint it
several
shades
lighter
to help
get his
creative
juices
flowing.
6.
TV or No TV
Most
experts
agree -
keep the
TV out
of the
bedroom.
There's
even
been
studies
done
that
show
couples
that
don't
have a
TV in
the
bedroom
have sex
twice as
often as
those
that do.
If you
just
have to
have a
TV in
the
bedroom,
then
make
sure you
have
some
romantic
DVDs on
hand.
Many
couples
that
have
been
together
for a
while
enjoy
watching
a
romantic
movie
together
in bed.
This not
only
satisfies
our
voyeuristic
tendencies
(and
yes, we
all have
them),
but you
might
even
pick up
a few
tips.
7.
Use Plants for Passion
Fresh
flowers
not only
make
your
room
look
lovely
and
smell
good, a
recent
study in
the
Scandinavian
Journal
of
Psychology
found
that
women
perform
better
on
creative
tasks
when in
the
company
of
plants.
Choose
classically
foxy
flora
like
roses,
which
emit a
mood-enhancing
chemical
called
phenylethylamine,
or PEA.
You can
also
surround
yourself
with
lavender
and lily
of the
valley,
whose
sweet
fragrances,
according
to the
Smell
and
Taste
Treatment
and
Research
Foundation,
help
increase
arousal
in men.
8.
Pick the right lighting
Lighting
in the
bedroom
should
be soft
and
filtered.
Overhead
lighting
is
notoriously
unflattering.
Bright
lights
can
detract
from the
ambience,
and
there’s
nothing
sexy
about a
well-lit
room.
You want
shadows,
highlights,
and the
soft
glow of
filtered
light.
Go for
mood
lighting
and
replace
the
white
bulbs
with
pink or
amber
tinted
bulbs.
Everybody
looks
better
in this
light.
9.
Candle Light is Always
Romantic
Candles
are
wonderful.
They
create a
warm,
inviting
&
sensual
ambiance
to a
bedroom.
They
also
provide
mystery.
Choose
different
colors
as well.
Red
candles
stand
for
sexual
attraction,
love,
vigor,
and
health..
Pink
candles
stand
for
attraction
of
affection,
winning
of love,
honor,
success,
and
conquering
of evil.
White
candles
stand
for
purity,
truth,
realization
of
personal
power,
and
spiritual
strength.
Go solid
whit for
a
dramatic
atmosphere,
or mix
and
match
colors
for
different
effects.
10.
Set the Mood with Music
Be sure
to
include
music
options
for your
sense of
sound.
"One of
the
easiest
ways to
change
your
environment
is with
sound,"
says
Stephanie
Buehler,
Psy.D.,
sex
therapist
and
director
of the
Buehler
Institute
in
Irvine,
California,
so keep
a
selection
of CDs
at your
fingertips
to set
the
mood.
Music
also
helps
create
an audio
buffer
so
nobody
will
hear
what you
are
doing in
there.
11.
Add Exotic Fragrances
Once
you’ve
covered
sight
and
sound,
make
sure to
cover
scent.
Take the
same
approach
to smell
that you
took to
sight.
Send
calming
or
sensual
scents
throughout
the
bedroom
and
choose a
scent
that
your
lover
and you
both
like.
Incense
is a
great
addition
to
creating
a
romantic
bedroom.
These
can be
the most
powerful
aphrodisiac
because
of it's
sense of
mysteriousness.
Have you
ever
watched
the
hypnotic
swirls
of smoke
as they
escape
into the
air?
It's
almost
like a
love
drug.
Sweet
smelling
incense,
like
Rose or
an
actual
aphrodisiac
incense
are
extremely
exotic.
Mood Killers
Keeping in mind that the boudoir
is your place for love, certain
objects may not be best suited
for your playroom. Hidden mood
killers include:
Laundry
When you're in the beginning
stages of passionate play,
looking over and seeing a pile
of dirty clothes (or even clean
ones) isn't going to help fan
the flame of desire.
Clutter
Nothing is more distracting,
especially to women, than
clutter. Consider the minimalist
approach in your bedroom and
keep only things that are
necessary for setting your mood.
Computers or Office Equipment
While you may need extra space
for your home office, the
bedroom isn't the place for it.
How can you close the door on
your work day if your home
office is the same place you
spend your alone time with your
partner?
Photos of Children or Family
Members
We all want reminders of the
people we love, but the bedroom
isn't always the best place for
some of them. Keep the mood of
the room in check with photos of
pictures of the two of you
together or sensual photography.
Stuffed Toys and/or Mementos
Stuffed toys are cute and
memorable, but really, do they
belong in the bedroom while
you're trying to be a sex
goddess? It definitely sends the
opposite message of anything
erotic.
Designer Secrets to a Sexy
Bedroom
The best design advice to set
the mood
Bedding to Spend All Day In
"Even if you’re watching your
wallet, the place to spend the
money is the bedding." —Cathy
Hobbs, founder of Aphereä
"People will over-pillow the
bed," warns designer Eric
Cohler, of Eric Cohler Design
Inc. It’s not sexy to have a
romantic interlude put on pause
while all the pillows are
removed.
"For a two-person bed, you need
at most two Euro-sham-size
pillows (placed against the
headboard), and four sleeping
pillows." —Designer Rebecca
Cole, Rebecca Cole Design
Flooring That Makes You Weak
in the Knees
"For anything but a beach
house—where wood floors are
fine—you should have
wall-to-wall carpeting in the
bedroom." —Harry Heissmann,
Senior Designer, Albert Hadley
Inc.
"A wool rug with silk in it will
create a beautiful shimmering
effect in candlelight."
—Designer Amy Lau
Window Treatments to Shut Out
the World
"I love the elegance of a whole
wall of drapery, ceiling to
floor." —Designer Rebecca Cole
"Blackout curtains are a must in
the bedroom so you can stay in
bed as long as you want."
—Designer Eric Cohler
Come-Hither Lighting
"The allure of the bedroom is in
the lighting." —Benjamin
Noriega-Ortiz
"Use gold paper on the inside of
a semi-opaque or opaque
lacquered paper lampshade, and
it counteracts the unflattering
glow of a compact fluorescent."
—Harry Heissmann, senior
designer, Albert Hadley Inc
Color that Flatters
"Go with your favorite color
because a bedroom should have
the things you love." —Cathy
Hobbs, of Aphereä Design (whose
own bedroom has burnt-orange
walls)
"A wallpaper with depth and
dimension can add color and
spice to the bedroom." —Designer
Amy Lau
"For the bedroom, I like a
slightly shiny wall with a
Venetian plaster finish." —Harry
Heissmann, senior designer,
Albert Hadley Inc.
